Behind the Booth
Wedding tips from DJ Greg Bedard
Want your wedding to flow smoothly? A few small planning decisions can make a big difference.
After hundreds and hundreds of weddings, I’ve learned which details help couples relax, keep guests comfortable, and leave more time for celebrating. These tips will help us put a good plan together so you can enjoy the day.
Browse the topics below and open whatever’s useful to you.
Music Planning
How much music do we need to choose?
Give me the songs and styles that matter most to you, and I’ll take care of the rest.
You can share favorite artists, genres, decades, specific songs, and anything you’d prefer to skip. You don’t need to build a playlist for every minute.
Your preferences give me direction. Reading the room helps me choose what works next.
What should we choose for prelude music?
Prelude music welcomes guests and sets the mood for your ceremony. Think romantic, acoustic, classical, country, modern instrumental, or whatever feels like you.
You probably won’t hear much of it while you’re getting ready for your entrance, so there’s no need to spend hours choosing every song.
Send a playlist, enter songs in your planning portal, suggest a general style, or leave it to DJ choice. I’m happy to put together about half an hour of music that fits.
What works best for cocktail hour?
Think atmosphere first. Motown, classic country, yacht rock, acoustic covers, Sinatra-style standards, indie folk, or a mix of favorites can all work beautifully.
You may be taking photos or greeting guests for much of this time. Save songs you absolutely want to experience for dinner or dancing.
“Upbeat acoustic,” “classic country,” or “jazzy and relaxed” gives me useful direction without requiring a song-by-song list.
Which songs belong at dinner, and which should we save for dancing?
Dinner is a great place for songs you love that aren’t necessarily danceable. They can be nostalgic, romantic, upbeat, or personal while leaving room for conversation.
Save the songs that make you picture everyone singing, jumping, and dancing for the dance floor.
As the reception progresses, you’ll generally have more opportunities to enjoy the music yourself. Put your favorites where you’ll actually hear them. Your ceremony songs and special dances are their own important moments, with music chosen specifically for each.
Where should we put our music requests?
Use the dedicated planning-form sections for ceremony songs, introductions, first dance, parent dances, cake cutting, and your final song.
For general requests, use:
- Must Play: The songs that really matter.
- Play If Possible: Songs you’d enjoy, with room for flexibility.
- Do Not Play: Songs or styles you want me to avoid.
If a request belongs specifically at dinner or cocktail hour, add a note. Keeping special-event songs in their proper sections helps connect each song to the right moment.
How do we make sure you have the right version?
Include the artist and exact recording, especially for ceremony songs and special dances. An original, acoustic version, live performance, or cover can feel completely different.
You can send a Spotify, YouTube, or other link to the exact version you want, and we’ll make sure we have it ready for your wedding day.
If you want to start at a particular lyric or shorten a song, tell me ahead of time so we can plan the timing and any edits.
How much thought should we put into the cake-cutting song?
Choose something that makes you smile. Cake cutting is usually quick, so the song can be sweet, romantic, funny, or simply a favorite.
It doesn’t need the same level of planning as your first dance. If you’d like suggestions or would rather leave it to me, that’s fine too.
What should our final song feel like?
Think about the ending you want: a big singalong, one last packed dance floor, or something sentimental with your favorite people around you.
A private last dance after guests leave is another option. If that appeals to you, we’ll coordinate it with the venue and photo/video team so it fits the evening.
Your final song is a chance to close the celebration in a way that feels like you.
Ceremony Tips
How do we plan our ceremony music cues?
We’ll confirm who is walking to each song, any special entrances, and whether there are readings, a unity ceremony, or other moments involving music or microphones.
Let me know if you want a particular lyric or section for an entrance. We can work out when to start the music and when the walk begins.
Share the plan with whoever is organizing the processional so everyone is working from the same cues.
When does the recessional music start?
It depends on your ceremony. The kiss isn’t always the final moment. Your officiant may introduce you as a married couple afterward, or there may be another planned action.
Have your officiant send me the script or confirm the exact final words or action. That’s my cue to start the recessional music.
Once that last moment is complete, turn toward your guests, pause, smile, and give it a few seconds before walking. Let the music start and enjoy everyone cheering for you!
How can we help a friend or family member officiate?
Share our one-page officiant guide with them before the wedding.
It covers practical details such as checking in for their microphone, inviting guests to stand and sit, helping you face each other during vows, and wrapping up the ceremony smoothly.
Knowing those little details ahead of time helps them focus on the meaningful part: marrying the two of you.
How can we help with the first-kiss photo?
Ask your officiant to plan a small step to the side as they invite you to kiss, before the kiss happens.
That gives your photographer a clear view of the two of you without the officiant directly between your faces.
Mention it at the rehearsal so the movement feels comfortable and natural.
Do we need microphones for the ceremony?
Microphones help guests hear the words that make your ceremony personal, including your vows, readings, and officiant.
Even someone with a strong speaking voice can be difficult to hear outdoors or from the back row.
When I provide ceremony audio, we’ll plan microphone placement for your ceremony, including the officiant, groom, and any readers as appropriate. The goal is clear, natural sound that lets everyone feel included.
Reception Flow
How do we keep the reception moving?
Group formalities thoughtfully so the evening has a natural progression.
Introductions, first dance, speeches, dinner, parent dances, and cake cutting all need a place in the plan. We’ll work with your venue and vendor team to arrange them in a way that fits your celebration.
Once open dancing begins, try to keep interruptions to a minimum. Giving the party room to build helps everyone settle in and enjoy it.
When should we greet everyone?
Plan a chance to say hello to all the guests who came to celebrate with you. Good options include:
- A receiving line after the ceremony.
- Visiting with guests during cocktail hour.
- A receiving line at the end of cocktail hour.
- Visiting tables during dinner, preferably during the salad course, directly after speeches finish.
We’ll choose an approach that fits your guest count and timeline. Waiting until you’ve finished dinner to start making the rounds can delay dancing, so building greetings into the earlier part of the celebration helps keep things moving.
How do we make sure we get to eat?
Plan your greetings around dinner service so you can enjoy your meal too.
If you’re visiting tables during salad, return to your seats when your main course is served. Your venue and vendor team can help coordinate the timing.
Between photos and conversations, it’s easy to get pulled away. Give yourselves a chance to sit together, enjoy the food you chose, and recharge for the party.
How can we make parent dances flow smoothly?
Make sure everyone involved knows when the dances are happening and is nearby when it’s their turn.
One staging idea I love: during the bride’s dance with her dad, the groom can wait nearby with his mom. During the groom’s dance with his mom, the bride and her dad can stay nearby to watch.
We can adapt that arrangement to your family and the people you’re honoring. It keeps everyone connected and makes the transition between dances feel natural.
Do special dances need to use the whole song?
They can, but they don’t have to.
For parent dances, around 90 seconds to two minutes often gives you plenty of time to enjoy the moment and capture photos. A natural fade or planned edit can keep it from feeling longer than you’d like.
The same conversation applies to your first dance. Tell me what feels comfortable, and we’ll plan the music accordingly.
What if the timeline changes?
A timeline gives everyone a shared plan, but weddings are live events. Dinner, photos, weather, or a dress bustle may shift the timing.
We’ll build a sensible plan and adjust together when needed.
I’ll coordinate with your venue, planner, photographer, videographer, and catering team to keep things moving. You can enjoy the celebration while we handle the timing.
Do we have to include every wedding tradition?
Choose the traditions you’re excited about.
Bouquet and garter tosses, anniversary dances, cake-cutting announcements, and other activities can be included, adapted, or skipped.
Tell me what feels right for you. We’ll build a reception around the moments you want to share.
Toasts and Family Moments
How long should wedding toasts be?
Around two to four minutes is a useful target for each speaker.
That gives them room for a personal story, a little humor, something heartfelt, and a toast to the two of you.
Give speakers a rough length ahead of time and confirm who is speaking. Knowing what’s expected helps them prepare and helps us leave plenty of time for the rest of the celebration.
How should a toast end?
Remind your speakers to come over for a hug when they finish, if that’s comfortable for everyone.
People can be so relieved to finish speaking that they hand off the microphone and head straight back to their seats.
Taking a moment to connect with you gives the toast a warm ending and creates a lovely opportunity for your photographer and videographer to capture your reaction.
Where should toast-givers sit and stand?
Seat speakers near you or near the planned toast location when practical, and make sure they know where to go.
Before speeches begin, I’ll help with the microphone and confirm the speaking order. We’ll also coordinate the location with your photo/video team.
A little preparation keeps the transition smooth and helps speakers feel more comfortable.
What should our parents and wedding party know?
Share the rough order of events with anyone involved in introductions, speeches, or special dances.
They don’t need a production schedule. They just need to know when they’ll be needed and where to gather.
Encourage them to check in before stepping away around their moment. It’s much easier to keep things flowing when the next person is already nearby.
Guest Experience
What’s the best way to share shuttle departure times?
Post clear transportation signs where guests will see them, such as the bar, guest-book table, restrooms, or exit.
Include departure times, the pickup location, and destinations if there’s more than one route.
Guests can check the information whenever they need it, and we can keep repeated announcements from interrupting dancing. If something changes or an announcement is needed, I can help with that too.
Who should sit farther from the speakers?
Consider guests who would appreciate a quieter place to sit, including grandparents, anyone sensitive to sound, and people who especially enjoy conversation.
Give them a little distance from the speakers while keeping them part of the celebration.
Guests who love being close to the action may enjoy seats nearer the dance floor. Your venue and I can help you think through the layout.
Photos, Vendors, and Final Planning
Why should we send you a photo of us?
A recent photo helps me recognize you quickly when I arrive.
We may have exchanged plenty of emails and had Zoom meetings without meeting in person. Having a photo makes those first wedding-day check-ins easier and more personal.
A casual picture of the two of you is perfect. It helps me put faces to the names and plans we’ve been working on together.
How do sunset photos fit into the reception?
Ask your photographer about the best timing, then share that plan with the vendor team.
The light window may overlap with dinner or reception events. Planning ahead lets us arrange those moments around your photos and keep your time away from guests manageable.
You can get the pictures you want while keeping the celebration moving.
What should we gather for detail photos?
If your photographer plans to photograph your details, ask what they’d like ready in one place.
Common items include rings, invitations, shoes, jewelry, perfume or cologne, vow books, and sentimental accessories.
Gathering them beforehand gives your photographer more time to create the photos and saves everyone from searching during prep.
Who should handle the dress bustle?
Choose someone ahead of time and have them learn how your particular bustle works.
If possible, bring them to the final fitting or record a short tutorial there. Give yourselves a planned window to take care of it before the next reception event.
A few minutes of preparation can make this part of the day much easier.
When should our vendors eat?
Ask your catering team to serve working vendors when your main course is served, whenever possible.
That helps your photographer, videographer, and DJ finish eating while you’re eating and be ready for the next event.
Serving vendors after all the guests have finished can create a timing conflict with speeches, dances, or photos. Coordinating meal timing ahead of time helps everyone stay available when you need them.
How do we keep the vendor team on the same page?
Use your planning portal to keep your music choices, ceremony details, and special instructions together. We’ll review the flow during your final detail meeting.
Share planned changes with the team, especially anything affecting timing or where an event happens.
Before introductions, dances, toasts, or other key moments, I’ll coordinate with the people involved so we’re ready together.
Let’s put your plan together
You don’t need to figure out every detail on your own. These tips give us a starting point.
Add your preferences to your planning portal, bring your questions to our final detail meeting, and tell me which moments matter most to you. We’ll put together a celebration that flows smoothly and feels like you.
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